What do women want?

Couldn't have said it better!

I'd add that she shouldn't want you to fix her life and make her happy. If she does, she has no clue about long haul relationships. As previously mentioned ... steer clear. That way madness lies.

 

Actually I get the polar opposite impression. Hope that's okay

In particular I would, with much respect, say that you seem less experienced with women than average. That could be just my impression, but there it is.

 

I don't want shoes or purses

 

Not any guy I know. While many would naturally imagine such an arrangement pretty awesome in a perpetual teenager kind of way, the reality of such a thing would be unacceptable on all sorts of levels.

Has it occurred to you that women (as prospective mates) see this side of you life in a poor light?

 

You certainly made a big (and erroneous) assumption about what I thought.


Before ya get all het up the TITLE of YOUR thread was ,"" What Do Women Want?""....it wasn't "what does the woman in my life want", you lumped them all together.....

...and, yes, the rest of my is also true.

 

What do women want?

To be told they are beautiful with sincerity, to be cherished by someone they love, to be appreciated and taken care of.

 

LOL!!

If that was only the case.

AA

 

My first fiancee died suddenly.

My second fiancee left even though she loved me to death because of my JOB.

When a guy is sent to places all over the world at a moments notice it is not exactly conductive to forming long term relationships.

But I do have women in my life I very much care for.

AA

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LOL!!!

There are....unique circumstances involved.

Plus it wasn't even my idea but I sure as HELL am not going to complain!!

AA

 

OK....by your post here I would say it is you who do not have that much experience with WOMEN plural.

I have been in a few very serious relationships where marriage was the goal and I have been in many short term relationships and unlike most men I actually have FEMALE FRIENDS who I very much love and care about and some of these friend relationships involve sex and some do not.

Now in all the women I have ever known and that number is considerable....there comes a time inevitably where a woman get's confused and does not know what she want's.

Now this could be specific to the relationship or specific to whether she want's to go out or not...etc.

It is variable.

Men in general are FIXERS....we like to FIX things.

But in this case attempting to FIX such an issue just makes the problem worse.

This topic is not about wondering why this happens because it just does.

It is about acknowledging it.

AA

 

I'm not a shoe girl myself. But I do have a thing for purses lol. As long as I can buy them on clearance...no designer high priced designer purses for me. I'm cheap lol.

 

I never could understand why anyone would spend $5000 on a purse?

AA

 

I have no idea what your personal comments had to do with the post of mine you quoted.

 

Therein lies the problem because you are right that men are fixers and we always try to fix things.

And that is NOT what the woman concerned actually wants from the man.

For all of the awesome superpowers that men posses they lack the ability to read minds.

I explained this unfortunate shortcoming to Mrs Te so now she lets me know when she wants me to fix things as opposed to when she just wants to me to listen.

Somehow we have managed to stick it out for 40+ years together so she must be doing something right.

 

Someone who is not hard to look at, is not hard to listen to, or to talk to, or to have sex with.

 

why couldn't you pick "your ass looks great in this" to prove your theory of underlying truth

 

thing is, lots of short termers and/or casual sex don't add up to experience. sometimes, the add up to the opposite.

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I'm not so sure about these. They're more icing, than daily bread. Except for that second last .. we all want and need to be appreciated

 

OK...I have read this thread and have learned...

Women want shoes, purses, and a man to fix things that the woman deems needs fixing and to tell them they have a great ass.

 

Really depends upon the woman, I think. But like most humans, they want security, they want happiness, and they want their egos to be very important.

With that said, they think differently, in my experience, than men. And if not for the sex drive of the male, and what they had betwixt their thighs, it would be open season on them. But not my daughters nor mother of course. They are DIFFERENT.

 

perhaps not. I do have very solid and active friendships with a handful of awesome women my own age, and good friendships with some older and some younger. almost all of them in long term marriages. I take my cues from on what women want from this lot. once again:

they want a healthy (physically), mature (mentally) man who knows how to laugh and isn't dysfunctional. they care little about looks and/or image, and far more about having a grounded and kind companion who will ride out the lows in partnership. because the lows (and there are plenty in long relationships) will be the test of the metal, no mistake.

and I don't think women are any more confused about what they want than men. why would they be?

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I don't buy new stuff (not even shoes), and spend most of my day/s digging in a garden, so these little indulgences become irrelevant pretty quickly.

 

I would tend to agree.

But that's not the case with me.

AA

 

There are a lot of different types of women and many feel they can provide their own security.

AA

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I never said men do not get confused.

We all do.

But men definitely try to fix such things.

AA

 

Years ago I had to tell my husband, when I was venting about work, that he could NOT go tell my boss off lol.
I just wanted him to listen and let me handle things.

 

Maybe you shouldn't. Try to fix things, I mean. Maybe it's seen as overbearing and micro-managing. Maybe wait until asked directly and specifically.

 

Well that is the standard reaction for a man.

AA

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Crank...do you actually think I don't know this???

AA

 

No idea. You did ask what women want