What is a social norm in America that you feel is ridiculous?

If you walk into a store
In Florida and the person working there can't speak English, that hurts
Me because I shouldn't have to learn Spanish. They should learn English. And frankly if you're not visiting who the Frack do you think you are Living here for any extended Period of time and not learn the language?

The fact English isn't the official language is part of our PC problem.

 

So if you start a successful business you shouldn't be allowed to pass it down to your children? It should go to the govt to sell off? Yeah OK. Guess you're not into that whole family owned business concept. OR it just reeks of jealousy. Guess everyone should spend everything they have before they die. Guess we shouldn't be allowed to buy nice things for our kids because other kids don't have what your kids have?

Life isn't fair. But part of life is making sure you're better than the next guy. Doing everything possible to make your children's lives better should be priority number one.

And the Kardasiens are an anomaly.

 

There are many, but the absolute worst is the attitude of the women. Too slutty, too fat, too disrespectful, too pushy, too foul mouthed, and just plain old ill-tempered battle axes.

far too many cops, too. Bloody rozzers are everywhere!!!! And they're mostly buttmunches.

 

I almost got hit by a car because we don't have bike lanes, as in would have been seriously hurt if I got hit. We need them.

 

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On the same vein, morons who are offended by women breast feeding in public. I've breast fed two of my girls, occasionally in public wearing Nursing tops designed to limit exposure and still, there'd be at least one clown (usually an older male) offended by that.

 

The bikers in our area complain because they still might get hit by a car door or somebody pulling in from a driveway or side street will block the lanes.They then complain because when they are riding in the middle of the traffic lanes where they are clogging rush hour traffic, the traffic isn't considerate of them. I guess they want us to build a skywalk for them or something. We have something like 30 or 40 miles of trails they could ride but they still feel entitled to geek pack down the roads so people will see them in all their ridiculous gear.

 

In your opinion, what differentiates an addict from a recreational user?

 

The technical distinction is when your addictive behavior starts to negatively impact your life.

I don't think that is a workable definition considering you don't have anything to compare it to. Charlie Sheen is a great example. He was doing a helluva lot better than most even when he was spending his days inbetween sex with models/prostitutes and burying his nose in a bag of cocaine every day. But who knows? He could have done even better if he didn't have that monkey on his back? Or maybe that monkey on his back is what made it possible for him to get all that money. Robin Williams was a major addict back when he was still zipping up his Mork uniform. But we all know how that ended up.

maybe without all that blow, he'd be some very happy but unknown walmart employee by now.

 

So the men are topless at your work? Now that's a casual Friday.

But true mastery comes from two-letter words... that's what I learned from Scrabble.

 

I really don't understand that. Breastfeeding is the most natural human act there is. Are some of these people leftovers of the Victorian age?

 

Lol, I have nothing to compare it to?
AA's Big Book categorizes an alcoholic/addict as someone unable to exercise control over their intake once they begin or someone unable to stop when they genuinely desire to.
I have a great deal more experience here than I'd like to...
Anyone out there wrestling, you are not alone.

 

There's something intriguing about this post. Can't quite put my finger on it.

 

I just mean that you don't have some control subject that didn't start doing drugs to compare the drugged version to.

Although, you do make a good point. And unfortunately, I have to agree with you. I was just thinking of the successful people I've known who didn't seem to be all that affected by drugs. Like those functional alcoholics that have beer for breakfast, graduate to wine for lunch, and by the time dinner rolls around, they're working on their second bottle of the hard stuff. Yet, they still have jobs (although almost always self-employed) and aren't worrying about how the bills are going to pay themselves.

 

There is no such thing a functional alcoholic or addict. We are by nature, definition, unable to exercise control.
#1 of the 12 steps...we admitted we were powerless
I have been fighting this demon for a decade.

 

Oddly, detox and rehab has very few alkies these days (I am the best/worst alcoholic ever). My first time in detox I blew a .42
A .42...anything over .3 is coma/fatal...
And I walked in, filled out all my paperwork...the nurses were floored. Never got into detox without getting sent to the ER first... Your BAC has to be around .2 before they consider you stable enough....
Opioids and benzos....biggest offenders.

 

You'd have to ignore/misunderstand American history and subsequent culture, to take the position stated above. The terms in question, didn't just burst onto the scene willy-nilly.

 

PC is an American social norm that is ridiculous.

This idea that one "shouldn't offend anyone", is ridiculous.

If someone gets in my face with any kind of unwanted political agenda, I go out of my way to offend them. Big-time! Because most of the time, that is the quickest and easiest way to get them to leave me alone!

The more offensive, the better. The last time the Jehovah's Witnesses knocked at my door I told 'em I was a Satanist. They don't bother me anymore.

 

not really my opinion, but actually the common used medical terms


a user is someone who uses a certain drug at least once every 30 days, or has used sometime during the past 30 days

an addict is someone who has developed a psychological and/or physical dependency for a certain drug

 

The notion that abject 'rudeness' and/or 'incivility' is some virtue to be touted, is both ignorant and socially destructive.

There is NOTHING wrong with being frank or honest, but the BS where people think saying whatever they WANT is necessarily "good", is neither realistic nor mature human behavior.

Grow UP "America"... don't go backward.

 

So in other words, your city did a bad job of planning the bike lanes. Tell me, how is a bike supposed to go to a store when they're in the middle of the road? Or the traffic problem. Bicyclists don't mix with cars. Putting them in the middle of the road makes little sense to me. Just from what you told me, it sounds more like the city is trying to discourage bicyclists. Also, bikes have every right to the road. It's egalitarian.

 

Sometimes rudeness is beneficial.

 

No the bike lanes or not in the middle of the road. They ride in the middle which is not supposed to be where they go. The bike lanes are on the sides of the road along the margins. The "bad job" has to do with they were not going to take front yards of people to build some geek friendly bike lane when just expanding road widths for traffic becomes a political and financial chore.

 

Define dependency as you understand it. In your own words, please.

 

The act of the grieving family members greeting people at a funeral for their loved like it's a (*)(*)(*)(*)ing Walmart.

When my mother passed, my brother and sister and I were expected to stand by my mother's coffin during the wake and shake people's hands as they walked by in a line. During the funeral too. Like it was a performance people expected you to make.

That was the last funeral I'll ever attend. And that's before even getting into all the religious nonsense. Funerals, at least the ones I've been to, are like a play put on by the grieving family where people have expected parts to play.

My mother passed suddenly and unexpectedly of an aneurism in 2007. It was a heavy blow but I was never angry with her death. The anger didn't come until I saw the idiotic motions and hefty bills one must go through to have a wake/funeral. I was allowed to pick the casket and I picked the cheapest one there, on purpose and with good reason. The bones and tissue inside the casket was no longer my mother. It was never going to be my mother again. She died the moment her brain did and her corpse was like a car without a driver. Everything that was my mother was no longer a part of it, and so there's no need to spend thousands of dollars on a casket and flowers and fancy venues. The funeral/wake cost thousands of dollars regardless. How incredibly stupid. It didn't bring me closure, it made the entire process exponentially worse.

And I lied, it wasn't the last funeral I went to. My Uncle's was. He was gay approaching the later stages of AIDS/HIV and he committed suicide and great pains were taken to brush that under the rug because my family is a rural moderately religious family. So I said the hell with funerals are the farces they are.

 

Alright I see what you're saying. To that I say, bikes can be in the middle of the road. Bicyclists have every right to the road. In fact that can be safer then bike lanes in certain situations. Think about this, if the bike is right up next to the sidewalk then that can quickly lead to losing control of the bike. Bike lanes are safer overall, but if cars are parked in them then that's an actual safety hazard.