Man Catcalls Women During Anti-Catcalling Report

And being sexist, men, assume THEIR feelings are the norm and anything else is wrong.

 

I think some men do the cat calling and wolf whistles precisely to make the woman feel uncomfortable. They are typically in a lower social strata, and have been rebuffed by women all their lives...at least by attractive women. The intent is not complimentary, the intent is sub-conscious anger directed at the women to make them uncomfortable. It empowers them to make someone else "feel bad" the way they perceive women have made them "feel bad."

I've been rejected plenty of times, rebuffed, unrequited...experienced the walk of shame back to my table after approaching, "cold calling," a table of women hoping to start a conversation. I've also rejected plenty of women who didn't strike my fancy.

It's brutal out there.

We're judged in a matter of seconds and no one seems to want to see us as complete human beings. So we're judged superficially..by what we drive, our smiles, our bodies....what someone sees is what someone gets. You can't see character, you can't see inner struggles...you see boobs and butts for the most part.

Obviously you can't legislate thought or completely stop cat calling; but my hope is that it is never deemed a socially acceptable form of human communication. it remains prevalent, primarily, among those in the lower social strata. That may seem a bit harsh to say, and cruel...but just as men that do this sort of thing aren't going to stop because a feminist tells them to, my opinion of it is not going to change either.

Most women anyway, don't want anything to do with the scrubs hollering at them on the streets. For a brief moment, they are empowered anyway...if indeed making someone uncomfortable is their goal, and I believe the motive is not benevolent at all. In fact it is malevolent.

 

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Good point ..... some men still have trouble realizing that they, and their feelings, do NOT set the norm, make the "rules", or determine what's acceptable any longer.... ....the planet is shared.

 

Good Lord, who cares? Granted, I don't live in a big city, so I can't say what that's like, but this just seems stupid. Just ignore them. That's what I and millions of other women do. Besides, "cat calls" are mostly done by teens and very young men. Older men don't normally conduct themselves in such a manner, in my experience. Most of them would feel silly behaving that way, I'm sure.

Don't forget either that in places like NY, there are a lot of street vendors and others trying to sell you something. It's completely normal for them to approach you with the line "hey beautiful . . . . " or whatever.

While it might be mildly annoying, it certainly is not the end of the world and it is not being "accosted" either. That's my opinion as a woman.

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This is a personal question, and don't take it the wrong way, but are you a man or a woman? It's not stated on your profile page, so I'm curious.

 

Please read post 77.


In your OPINION it's nothing but your opinion is not shared by everyone....wouldn't it be nice if these little insecure losers just shut their mouths and minded their own business....then everyone would be happy and be able to walk down a street without some "macho" slobs yelling at them. Their age doesn't excuse them.

It's not the end of the world by why should anyone have to put up with it.

Sure, it can't be legislated away but if fewer people accepted it maybe more women can just walk peacefully down the street without harassment...everyone should have that right...


It is NOT some "male right" that must be endured....

 

Meh, you people are making a mountain out of a mole hill. Seriously. Sure, being hooted and hollered at is embarrassing sometimes, but usually when you ignore them, they stop. IMO, those people who behave in such a manner are just looking for attention, and then some people are just jerks and don't care. Better off to ignore those people than to let them know they are bothering you.

So, are you a man or a woman?

 

What do you mean if you ignore them they stop ? Thats' no solution the incident has already happened!!!

So you'd be perfectly fine if every day you walked out of your house the neighbor guy hooted and commented on your clothes, your body ?

OK, you enjoy it but that doesn't mean all women have to put up with it.....


Why do you have this deep need to know my sex? Are you trolling for love on the internet???


Tell me you're not as desperate as these weak little men whose only claim to masculinity is yelling things at women.....

 

You want to know what's really creepy (to me anyways), is when a guy just stares at you, up and down, and leers at you and doesn't say anything. Now, THAT creeps me out.

I remember once when I was walking down the street, and there was a small group of young guys (maybe 3 or 4) hanging out, sitting on a wall behind a local gas station that I happened to be walking by. Well, they started yelling things out (I can't remember what exactly), and so I decided I would approach them and say something. So I walked up to them, and I said, "excuse me? Did you say something?" Crickets. Lol! They were totally speechless. It was priceless.

 

Priceless and dangerous....and why didn't you follow your own advice? """"" but usually when you ignore them, they stop"""""

 

My neighbors would never behave in such a manner, but yeah, if it was the same guy every day who was a neighbor? That might be a little different. I'm talking about walking down the road and having some guys go by in a car or whatever and start yelling things.

Where did I say I enjoyed it? Quote that please, or you are being dishonest and passive aggressive . . . .

It's not a "deep need," I'm just curious. You seem to post only about women's issues, yet you come across as a male. You must be a liberal male feminist or something.

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That was one time just because I wanted to mess with them. It was daylight and there were plenty of people around, so I wasn't afraid. I don't walk around being afraid of men.

 

What does this last line imply? Oh, I see, you claim to be all about women and women's rights until one disagrees with your assessment of things . . . then, you'll go on the ATTACK! Lol! Funny stuff.

 

What you don't get is that individual women have individual opinions...and some individual women do not want to be harassed as they walk down a street.

YOU need to know the difference between stalking and being an idiot (not much) and age and sex do not excuse stupid behavior.

 

You seem to think it's no big deal and that all other women should cave and just accept it... I feel you must enjoy it since you defend it.

 

Oh well, they need to learn how to deal with life. Yes, age certainly does excuse a lot of stupid behavior. That's a fact of life.

 

They should learn how to deal is what I'm saying. Besides, some people are just miserable wretches who are never happy unless they can find something/anything to complain about. Like I said, it's embarrassing at most. A person, male or female, saying "good morning" or "hey beautiful" to you is not so terrible. It's all about perspective and whether or not you are allowing yourself to FEEL like some kind of a victim. Besides, men are very visual creatures. It is just biological for them to be attracted by a woman's appearance, especially when she's wearing super tight clothes and walking with a "bounce" like the woman in the NY video. Of course, the men could control themselves and not act in such a manner, but like I said, some people are jerks or some people don't care. There is nothing that is going to change those people.

 

No attack but a definite challenge to your deeply ingrained sexist outlook......that CAN FEEL like an attack

 

You continually make excuses for men with all the old trite 19th century baloney.....sexism is deeply ingrained....